If you have ever had a coach (executive, life etc) you will know that a key ‘rule’ is that it is totally up to you to deliver your short-term or long-term goals. By taking responsibility you learn the skills and acquire the maturity to get things done. This sounds, and is, a very effective maxim.
Until you can’t do that one thing.
Let’s imagine you are moving forward nicely and you are faced with the one task that you can’t face or just don’t have the capacity for. It may be that you will never face the task again, yet according to conventional coaching philosophy you are responsible for getting it done. Undoubtedly you will learn something in the process of attempting the task but, you think to yourself, is it worth it?
You give up and stop seeing your coach.
You don’t want to let them down and you don’t want to be told, diplomatically of course, that you are letting yourself down.
This is why I offer people a consultancy support service alongside my coaching so that critical tasks can be shared and supported with me. This also means I act more as an advocate for clients. This system depends, of course upon having the ability to understand and deliver on real and complex tasks alongside coaching.
This practical approach means that people stay motivated and ‘stick with the plan’ getting to the bigger goals by having some support along the way.